Nice Guys And Dating Disasters

Bad boys do not seem to care whether they offend their dates during the course of an evening but nice guys do, so why is it that nice guys always seem to shoulder the burden of dating disasters? For example, there is the old classic disaster – you look up from your dinner just as a gorgeous and sexy blonde walks through the door. Instead of turning back to your date and asking her a question, you continue to stare at the blonde babe.

This is one of the golden rules of nice guy dating if you want to avoid disaster – never pay attention to any other woman in the restaurant at all, only your date. If you pass comment about any other woman then the likelihood is that you will never see your date again.

If this were the only possible nice guy dating disaster out there then it would be pain sailing from now on. It would be easy to avoid this situation! Unfortunately for you though, there are many more dating disasters out there that you might want to avoid. Below are some examples of nice guy dating disasters so you can avoid them in advance!

Disaster 1 – This is pretty much the same nice guy dating disaster that is outlined above because it is undoubtedly the most common. Your date may be funny, attractive, witty and everything else you could possibly want in a woman but human nature says that you are going to stare at a drop dead gorgeous woman if she walks into the bar or restaurant. The trick is to keep your focus and your eyes 100% on your date.

It is incredibly hard to ignore beautiful women because the male of the species is programmed to stare, but every date you have will take this as a huge insult and then automatically think that she is not good enough for you. And the there is always the likelihood to cheat scale that you will fall right to the bottom of if your eyes are already wandering. Similarly, never mention a beautiful woman on a first date. This is also one of the nice guy dating disasters to avoid! It is the same as looking at one – a big no-no.

Disaster 2 – Instead of being unable to control your eyes, this nice guy dating disaster revolves around being unable to control your mouth. You have no idea how or why but you somehow end up talking about your ex-girlfriend or ex-wife. This is a disaster because your ex is your ex for a reason. The temptation is to start slagging her off and that is a big mistake because your venting will become a rant so your date will be left listening to you and may also see a side to you that you do not want her to see just yet. 

If you are having fun then there is nothing that can put a damper on it like talking about exes and all of the nasty things that they did. You can talk about this in time with her but not on one of the first dates you have. You should avoid mentioning your ex at all costs on the first date. If you are asked about it then answer the questions, but keep it brief and as neutral as possible.

Disaster 3 – So you do not talk about your ex, but then you go onto your views o abortion, racism, feminism, politics and religion. This is one of the nice guy dating disasters because a date is not the time and place to start a heated debate! People feel very strongly about the above subjects and you probably do too so just stay away from the issues until you have gotten to know your date a lot better and can see a future for you!

Disaster 4 – This one is simple – do not mention sex! Whether or not you sleep together on the first date is a mutual decision, but if it happens it should just happen. Talking about it will put her off!